I was reading some articles for my Sexuality in Comparative Analysis course regarding how female virginity has a price while male virginity is something that can be dismissed. I have mixed feelings on this imposition societal structure has on its members.
I mean, I believe in the notion that sex is supposed to be reserved for THE ONE (I succumb to this) but the way this belief is shaped is totally for the benefit of men. It's okay for men to sleep around before settling down but if a woman was to do that, her 'value' drops. Why must it be the case where men MUST have "first-hand goods"? Don't women want "first-hand goods" too?
It is always argued that a man cannot cannot accept if his girlfriend/wife has had multiple sex partners before him. He will have mental thoughts about her with other men. Okay, I get this. But how about the women? Wouldn't they feel the same thing if their men were sexually active before them too? It's like women are trained to accept that it's okay if their men are not virgins while men are trained that IT'S NOT OKAY if their women are not virgins. THIS IS CLEARLY FOR THE SATISFACTION OF MEN. They get to have the best of both worlds. They get to try pussies and yet get the 'first hand pussy' after marriage. Women, on the other hand, are not able to try different dicks. If not, they are a whore. And women, no matter if they are virgins or not, 95% of the time the dick they are getting after marriage have been in somekind of wethole. If a woman gets a virgin husband, she has to worry about him fooling around, since he has not tasted different pussies. BECAUSE MEN ARE SOCIALISED TO INCORPORATE A "PUSSY-SPREE" PHASE IN THEIR LIFE, BE IT BEFORE MARRIAGE, AFTER MARRIAGE, OR BOTH. But a man don't have to woryy about such shit BECAUSE WOMEN ARE NOT SOCIALISED SINCE YOUNG TO BE LIKE THAT.
And even if some men don't really care for virgins, there is still this unspoken rule that woman can only have so and so number of previous sex partners (maybe at the most 3?). If more than that, they wont take her seriously. BUT WHEN IT COMES TO MEN, THE WOMAN HAVE TO ACCEPT HIM EVEN IF HE HAS HAD 50 SEX PARTNERS. BECAUSE AS PEOPLE SAY IT, IT'S NORMAL FOR MEN TO ACT LIKE THAT. wtf. seriously.
This is not a personal view, I'm just trying to come up with an argument for tutorials. Which is totally turning into a personal one. FUCK IT!
